Dear Hannah:

In response to a post I wrote, a blogger friend of mine, Hey Now Hannah, wrote a post to shed some light on the questions I asked, from the female perspective (Which I greatly appreciated). She later decided to write a post very similiar to mine and I have decided to respond to her questions by posting my answers here.

Question #1
"That guy who's unemployed, watches too much TV and texts me at midnight with nothing to say... What's his deal?"

Answer:
Well, it is very difficult for me to answer this question since I do not know the person you are referencing (if anyone at all). So, I'm going to write out a couple of potential scenarios and you can plug in the one that you think fits best. 

1. This guy really likes you but you intimidate him in person. So, he resorts to texting you later at night when it is easier for him to have a conversation with you (ie. not face-to-face).
2. This guy is desperate. Now do not missunderstand my usage of the word desperate because I mean this guy could be desperate for anything.  He may just need someone to talk to so that he doesn't feel worthless.  Who knows...Maybe ask?
3. I think the "unemployed & watches too much T.V." part is kind of irrelevant, so don't read too much into it other than if you deem that as undesirable in a man (which you most likely shou...I mean, do). However, in any scenario he needs to man up a bit. 

Question #2
"The most popular girl in the youth group - the one with the weird laugh who flirts and hangs all over the guys - why does she get so much male attention?"

Answer:
This one is super simple! The only reason she gets so much attention is because she puts herself out there. It doesn't make her any more desirable than the girls who are not super extroverted, but it does mean she gets more attention.  In most cases though, the guys will only give her attention and keep her around  because they feel comfortable around her.  She may seem like the "most liked", but not all guys like to be forced into friendships and I know in my case, she'd irritate the tar out of me. The girl shown the most attention is not always the most popular girl amongst the guys -- Keep that in mind.

Question #3
"There's a difference between a guy who's interested and a guy who's desperate. How do you tell?"

Answer:
A few ways actually:

1. The guy who is interested will definitely have a harder time talking to you than the guy who is desperate.
2. The guy who is desperate will steal every opportunity to be where you are and will always want to know what you're doing. The guy who is interested will/should respect you enough to know that he doesn't always need to be near you or texting you.
3. It's a little easier to tell the difference between interested/desperate than it is to tell the difference between interested/just friendly.  The thing is that some guys legitimately just want to be your friend, and often times it is really easy to think they want to be more.  Also, the "just friendly" category can seem like the desperate category...and those people are just weird.

Thanks Hannah! I hope this answers your questions. I had fun reliving high school for an hour. Please let me know what you think of my answers! 

Also, I welcome anyone else who reads my blog to comment here or on my facebook page. If you don't feel comfortable with that, shoot me a message on Facebook and we can talk!

-Matt