Monday, January 31, 2011

Dear Hannah:

In response to a post I wrote, a blogger friend of mine, Hey Now Hannah, wrote a post to shed some light on the questions I asked, from the female perspective (Which I greatly appreciated). She later decided to write a post very similiar to mine and I have decided to respond to her questions by posting my answers here.

Question #1
"That guy who's unemployed, watches too much TV and texts me at midnight with nothing to say... What's his deal?"

Answer:
Well, it is very difficult for me to answer this question since I do not know the person you are referencing (if anyone at all). So, I'm going to write out a couple of potential scenarios and you can plug in the one that you think fits best. 
  1. This guy really likes you but you intimidate him in person. So, he resorts to texting you later at night when it is easier for him to have a conversation with you (ie. not face-to-face).
  2. This guy is desperate. Now do not missunderstand my usage of the word desperate because I mean this guy could be desperate for anything.  He may just need someone to talk to so that he doesn't feel worthless.  Who knows...Maybe ask?
  3. I think the "unemployed & watches too much T.V." part is kind of irrelevant, so don't read too much into it other than if you deem that as undesirable in a man (which you most likely shou...I mean, do). However, in any scenario he needs to man up a bit. 
Question #2
"The most popular girl in the youth group - the one with the weird laugh who flirts and hangs all over the guys - why does she get so much male attention?"

Answer:
This one is super simple! The only reason she gets so much attention is because she puts herself out there. It doesn't make her any more desirable than the girls who are not super extroverted, but it does mean she gets more attention.  In most cases though, the guys will only give her attention and keep her around  because they feel comfortable around her.  She may seem like the "most liked", but not all guys like to be forced into friendships and I know in my case, she'd irritate the tar out of me. The girl shown the most attention is not always the most popular girl amongst the guys -- Keep that in mind.

Question #3
"There's a difference between a guy who's interested and a guy who's desperate. How do you tell?"

Answer:
A few ways actually:
  1. The guy who is interested will definitely have a harder time talking to you than the guy who is desperate.
  2. The guy who is desperate will steal every opportunity to be where you are and will always want to know what you're doing. The guy who is interested will/should respect you enough to know that he doesn't always need to be near you or texting you.
  3. It's a little easier to tell the difference between interested/desperate than it is to tell the difference between interested/just friendly.  The thing is that some guys legitimately just want to be your friend, and often times it is really easy to think they want to be more.  Also, the "just friendly" category can seem like the desperate category...and those people are just weird.
Thanks Hannah! I hope this answers your questions. I had fun reliving high school for an hour. Please let me know what you think of my answers! 

Also, I welcome anyone else who reads my blog to comment here or on my facebook page. If you don't feel comfortable with that, shoot me a message on Facebook and we can talk!

-Matt

Friday, January 28, 2011

Controversy, Girls, Things I Do Not Understand, And My Shameless Opinion

So, I got to see a principle I learned at a very young age actually prove itself to be true this week.  The principle that controversy sells became real to me to the tune of a 500% increase of viewer traffic on  my blog in the past three days. Yes, I can see how many times people visit. No, I don't know exactly who is visiting (I could probably find out). Thanks for reading guys.

Anyways, that is not what I want to discuss in this post.

The topic on the table is women. Yes, you heard me correctly, I want to talk about girls. Now, I'm not going to talk about any likes or dislikes that I may have. . .because that would be stupid. However, I am going to throw a few things out there that either confuse or concern me. An example being, how girls play really hard to get until a guy pretends to not care, and then they throw themselves at him. . .I don't understand.

A little background about where my limited knowledge of the female species comes from: I grew up with two sisters and no brother. My older sister is only 13 months older than me and she taught me almost everything I needed to know about women - I say almost because, obviously, women do not fully comprehend themselves, or else, attempting to understand a woman would not be nearly as futile a task as it is currently.  My sisters exposed me to certain situations that I believe have helped me narrow my vision of what I consider to be my ideal woman. You see, the truth is that I am a very, very, very picky person because of what I learned from my sisters.  I've learned how to decipher a girl's intentions based upon her tone and/or body language, I've learned how to keep track of a conversation that jumps all over the place, and I've most definitely learned how to recognize the few days a month when girls should be avoided...period. 

Ok, so now that you kind of know where I came from, here are a few things that I don't understand:

1. Why is it that girls think it is okay to "claim" a guy?
- I have never been able to understand why girls will basically play the, "I saw him first" card in order to get the guy they want.  They'll be sure to confide in their best friend (who she knows is going to tell everyone) that she likes Johnny, she thinks he's hot stuff, and she definitely thinks there is chemistry there because he wore the same color jeans that she did...blah.
  • Here's my take on this one...STOP IT!  Ladies, please save yourselves from this practice. All you're doing is setting yourself up for a serious emotional let-down in the future when you find out that every guy wears blue jeans, and this guy happens to like your best friend. 
  • Stay patient and wait for the guy to come after you...Believe it or not, we like to choose, and the pursuit/hunt for the girl we like is our favorite part. So make it a challenge 
2. Why is it okay for girls to lie to guys as long as they say it in a sweet voice?
- You know who you are...You say things like, "Of course I like the Cincinnati Browns!" and, "You're not fat, you're just really strong!" or my favorite, "I love your shoes...". 
  •  Well, for one, we're not buying it, and two...it doesn't matter if the Browns are from Cleveland when you smile like that....dangit!  I mean, it is not fair for you to lie to us and then demand honesty.  Play fair... 
3.Why do girls like guys that are mean to them?
-This is one that I've never understood.  The scenario: Guy doesn't like girl, guy treats girl like crap, girl falls in love with guy, guy takes advantage because it's easy...What has happened  to our society? Because I know you're all reading this nodding your head saying, "yeah, that happens all the time."
  •  I blame movies. 
  • Girls, please don't fall for a guy just because he shows you some attention. Wait for a guy who treats you like a princess, and who wants to be with you.
Ok, I'm going to stop here because this is starting to get long, and the other things that I don't understand about girls are probably not worth writing (Just like these!).  I want to leave everybody with this. . .Men, treat women with respect, love them the way that Jesus does, and fight to defend her heart as well as your own. I've failed in this area countless times -- I urge you all to do better.  Women, respect yourselves, wait for the right man to pursue you, and let Jesus be the one who holds your heart.
-Matt

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Today was Ridiculous: A Rant...

So something  happened to me today that actually upset me a little bit.  I'm not an easy person to irritate, so you can imagine my surprise as the endorphins kicked in, and I felt the urge to punch another individual in the mouth.

The truth is, I am partly at fault for this entire fiasco happening in the first place.  You see, I just recently graduated from college, I've been working full-time, I've been very sick, I injured my knee, and I am frantically searching for a new place to live.  Needless to say, a few of my things are still in my old room on campus at Ecclesia College.  This is my fault, and I've been working my butt off to get them moved. Also, I've been in close contact with the correct people at Ecclesia to ensure that it was still okay that I haven't been able to find a new home for my possessions.

So here's what went down.  This morning, a gentleman whom I used to live with in one of the apartments that the school owns (and where my things currently reside) texted me to talk about the items that are still in my old room.  I told him that I'd been in contact with the school and unless he'd heard specifically from *person who will remain anonymous*, and had new information, he had no need to worry about it. I also added that I was at work and shouldn't be texting, much less making personal phone calls on my boss' dime.  I guess this guy wasn't too pleased with my response, read my texts out of context, or felt like I was being demeaning because he got the bright idea to come to where I work to attempt to teach me a lesson.

This guy shows up while I'm putting together a proposal for a potential client and begins the "conversation" by saying, "I just came up here to let you know that I was trying to reach out to you kindly, and you responded like a child and were very demeaning."  Well, for starters, I'll be honest. After the fifth text that I received from him that didn't tell me what he wanted from me...I may have gotten a little demeaning.  I mean, if you're going to tell me that you need to talk to me via a text message, then be prepared to have a full conversation that way.  Don't text me and then tell me you refuse to have a conversation through text...that's retarded.  Especially when what you have to tell me will take you less than 160 characters worth of english.

So, he comes to where I work and opens with that line that obviously made me super excited to see him, and then he proceeds to act like I had committed some unforgivable crime against his apparently fragile pride.  I was just remaining calm, because Iwas at my desk in the lobby where I work, and he was getting so mad that he was literally shaking and stuttering through what he was trying to say.  My very first question to him, and one that I had asked him through text message earlier was, "Have you talked to *anonymous person* and asked her about my situation so that you understand where I'm coming from, and what the school has offered me?"  He replied, "yes". I found out about two second into our conversation that he had obviously lied to me.  He had no clue what he was talking about or what I had discussed with the school, and the more I cited emails I had traded with Ecclesia, the more angry he became.  After about two minutes of him accusing and threatening me, I asked him to take the conversation outside because I was starting to get irritated that he thought it was okay for him to just walk into a respected place of business and talk the way he was talking.

Outside, he and I traded a few more words, and I expressed to him once again that I had no time for his ignorant accusations and name-calling (by the way, do you guys think of me as being childish?).  He spat a few more insults my way and then final walked away with a huff and a threat to go and move all of my belongings.  I calmly walked back inside, made one phone call to the wonderful people who I had been talking to before.  Had them shut him down, and I requested that he not be allowed to ever touch my things since he's mad at me and I have very expensive items sitting in that room.

Through all of this, I wasn't upset with the name-calling, accusations, threats, or even the ignorance of the situation that he exhibited.  I was seriously upset that he thought that it was okay for him to just walk into a place where somebody works and talk the way he did.  I mean seriously, how does a late twenty-something guy who works as a wait-assistant at a restaurant, bums off a broke school that hired him because of his brother, and still sits on his butt playing his Playstation 2 every night get it in his head that it's okay for him to go and jeopardize someones' who's trying career?.  You really have to be pretty narcissistic, rude, and self-conscious to allow a couple text messages to hurt your pride so badly that you feel the need to go to someone's job while they are working and try to give them a piece of your mind...I mean seriously, it really bothers me that some people don't try at all to succeed in life; yet, they feel like they have the right to tell everyone else that they're wrong.  I work hard, and I have been trying endlessly to get my things off campus.  Yet, this guy has the nerve to come to me and tell me that I'm a free-loader and a child who needs to grow up (mind you he says this while I'm at my full-time day job)?

Ridiculous...(Just for the record, I added a wonderful 500 word rant about Ecclesia here, but decided to take it out because even though I was correct in what I wrote; it wasn't appropriate for this post.  Almost as inappropriate as getting offended by a text message that you misread, going to someone's job, and making ignorant accusations and empty threats)...
Okay, rant over...
-Matt

Friday, January 21, 2011

Do You Smell That? That's the Bittersweet Smell of Nostalgia...

So, I'm a firm believer that everybody over the age of  16, in one way or another, lives their life in search of the perfect nostalgic moment. We all desire to relive those happy memories from our childhood when we didn't have any responsibilities, financial obligations, or appearances to keep up.  You know the bittersweet desire to achieve a resemblance of the past resides within all of us.  But what does yours look like?  What is your perfect nostalgic moment?

Mine?. . .That's easy.

My perfect nostalgic moment actually takes a full 24 hours to complete.  It consists of me waking up to go to Bible Study and then from there, spending my morning at the First Tee golf course in Little Rock, AR with my bro, Jim Stallings. He and I tear up the course from the back tees and enjoy a Pepsi Blue in the club house.  From there, we go to the Rave theater and watch a crappy movie with Chris Keathley, MST3K it, and then grab some Wendys for lunch. By this time in the day, we'll already be making jokes about all of our home schooled friends.  In my perfect nostalgic scenario, we would run into a few of the particularly frustrating ones and have some fun messing with them on our way to hike up Pinnacle - The glorified hill of central Arkansas.  After Pinnacle, we'd be very hungry again, so I'd go and snag some free pizzas from Little Caesars out in Maumelle, because I am still the reigning Caesar Pope(Long story, please don't try to follow all the inside jokes).  We'd eat the pizza while riding around in Chris' 4-banger (RIP) listening to some Dashboard, Jimmy, and the greatest song in the world. Somewhere along the way, Jeff and David would find us, which would be odd because we didn't tell Jeff where we were going to be.  With the night still young and the sun about to set, we would gather together to play some Halo.  After a couple games, we'd decide to pop in a movie, in this case, Mystery Men, and out of nowhere, Ben would show up. We'd quote the entire movie together and discuss why Jim doesn't like it, and why he'd rather be watching Gladiator.  After the movie, we'd hop on the computer and get some music going - probably something by Incubus - Chris would introduce us to some fan films, and we'd all discuss whatever current script or fad we're all working on.  After all of this, there's only one thing left for us to do...Swap some Man Stories, which we would later dub, "Man Talks" since we never actually had stories and it was all just blind conjecture into our potential love lives.  Oh and in the morning...you know that I'd wake up before Chris, and just after Jim sneaked out, to make everyone waffles...

This is my nostalgic moment...Tell me yours.
-Matt

Thursday, January 20, 2011

New Blog Idea: Would You Read?

So, I'm trying to decide if I should start a new blog.  I really want to start a blog dedicated to movie, video game, CD, and television show reviews & suggestions. 

My concern is that nobody would read this new blog, and I do not want to start something that isn't going to go anywhere.

So, like the link on my facebook or leave a comment here if you'd read it or at least be interested in reading.

Thanks,
-Matt

Monday, January 17, 2011

I Think I May Have a Problem Here...

There are only a few things that have had a great impact on my life. My family, where I grew up, my friends, music, movies, video games, and now, Coffee. Coffee has revolutionized the way I drink, and has taken me far beyond the dimly lit realm of soda pop. This glorious brewed bean has become more than just something I drink. It has become an event that I gladly partake in each day.  I think I may be hooked.

Now, I'm no stranger to coffee, and this phenomena is not exactly new to me.  Coffee has been a part of my family for years, and until recently, my mother drank coffee every day (finally kicked the habit). I know a lot about coffee from what I've heard in casual conversation and lightly drinking throughout my life. So, I know how to order what I like. Also, I've always enjoyed coffee, but I never thought I'd want to drink it every day.  Well, my time has come and I am now a coffee drinker.

So, you may be wondering, "why the sudden change?"  The answer is simple, peer pressure.  Yes, I have succumbed to the peer pressure of my co-workers and they have played a pivotal role in bringing me over to the dark side (although I do use creamer).  It started off as a kind gesture, offering me a cup of coffee from the morning pot. Sometimes I would decline, sometimes I would have a cup, but I was never consistent.  Then one day I noticed that the community pot of coffee was a little more full than usual, suggesting that I was now expected to have a cup of joe. So, to be polite, I poured myself a cup, added three sugars, a small amount of hazelnut cream, and walked back to my desk.  This happened for a few days in a row before I realized what was going on. So,the next morning, I decided to make myself a nice cup of Earl Grey instead, and went about my business as usual.  I took my lunch break that day at noon, like I always do, and found myself driving all the way into Fayetteville (I work in Har-Ber Meadows) to get some Starbucks.  It worked out because I got Chik fil' a, but it was in that moment that I realized I may have a problem.  A short while later, Arsagas opened up their Springdale location a few stores down from us and stole what was left of my will to resist the powers of the java gods (no, I don't really believe in "java gods").

I am now a coffee drinker and I am not ashamed.  I am going to limit how much I drink because I have a goal to lose a little bit of weight over the next few months, but it is going to be difficult.  I highly recommend Arsagas to anyone who has not been there yet.  They have a great house blend and keep other great blends brewed all day long.  Also, their prices are very good!  For those of you who do not drink coffee; that is completely fine. I will not judge you if you promise not to judge me for my new found drinking habit.

-Matt

Friday, January 14, 2011

Change is My favorite Inevitibility of Life

I posted a few days back that I don't believe in making New Years Resolutions.  What I said was true, I don't make big goals for each year just because it is a new year.  Rather, I like to set small goals for myself daily - keeping the future in mind so that I don't loose sight of the bigger picture; which is God's will for my life. 

Goal setting is a great way to achieve progress in any area of your life, and I have seen my productivity improve greatly by just setting a few very small goals.  Throughout the past eighteen months, I have been intentionally setting goals for myself. I have seen quite a few failures, and I have seen some success along the way. The good news is that I learned from all of the failures and grew from the successes.  Here are 10 things that I have accomplished:

1. Graduated from college a semester early.
2. Read my Bible cover-to-cover twice (not counting class-work).
3. I read 75 books last year (Not counting the Bible).
4. I have significantly cut down the number of hours spent on my Xbox.
5. I filled 9 journals with writing.
6. I went to Turkey
7. Made a lot of new friends (May not sound like a big accomplishment, but it is something I'm working on).
8. I'm a lot happier and content with where God has me in life.
9. I found a full-time job that I really enjoy.
10. I have made it to the point where I am making enough money to live on my own (Still working on getting all of my things out of my Parent's house...Soon mom, I promise). ;-)

Now, for most of you, these may not seem like great accomplishments at all.  That's fine! I'm not you and you're not me.  God is using each of us in different ways, and I think that is very cool.  These accomplishments are all the direct result of me making small goals, and each of them has contributed towards growing me into a more faithful man. I am a firm believer that setting goals is one of the best way to improve your life if you just remember to start small and keep God as your priority.

The goal I set for myself this week (and for the rest of my life) came directly from Colossians Chapter 3.  Paul wrote to the church of Colosse, "Set you mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth" (Colossian 3:2).  That has been my goal and it has not been easy.  However, it has been very beneficial.  Re-directing my focus back to God's word and His plan for my life has reinvigorated my joy and has given me more energy than I've had in awhile. I had almost forgotten where my strength and ability come from, but God is good, and I pray that He will redeem the time I spent out of focus.

A Few Questions:
1.What kind of goals have you set for yourself?
2.Do you think setting goals can be useful?
3.Do you find it hard to set goals for yourself?

-Matt

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Concerning a Dream That Was Rather Concerning...

Last night I had a dream. I do not dream very often because I am usually unable to stay asleep long enough to dream. However, last night I had a dream. My dream was unlike any other dream I've ever had, but it is very difficult to tangibly explain why.

For me, a normal dream consists of vague images and surface-level conversations that tend to happen in reality, but hold no weight on important future events. In fact, the only reason most of them find a place in reality is probably because I over-analyze everything and forced those situations/conversations by manipulation via the use of a structured questioning pattern. Am I the only one out there that carefully plans conversations?. . .Is that a normal thing to do?

Anyways, my dream last night was very different. It was vivid, I remember every detail. It involved in-depth conversation, and quite a few bold statements about my future. It also included a few other people. The first two do not concern me but the last one does. I refuse to explain the events that took place in the dream (don't let your imagination run wild, it was nothing inappropriate) because I don't quite know what to make of it yet. I guess the only reason I'm writing about it at all is because the vividness of the dream seriously concerned me. Not necessarily in a bad way because it was not something to be afraid of. I think the concern I have comes from the enormity of what took place in the dream. But to be really honest, my true concern is in this dream's potential to manifest into reality...

I have a lot to think about and consider...

-Matt

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Solomon and His Bride

The Song of Solomon is one of the most intriguing allegories ever written. Just kidding, actually, the Song of Solomon happens to be one of the most intriguing love poems ever written. The title of this book is often debated; however, the writer is going to refer to it as The Song of Solomon in order to reaffirm his belief that Solomon is in fact the author of “The Song of Songs.” Solomon’s name is mentioned seven times throughout the book (1:1, 5; 3:7, 9,11; 8:11, 12), and the very first verse says, “The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s” (NASB).[1] If this is not enough evidence that Solomon is the author, then the writer would love to hear another perspective that makes more sense. The book itself is a poem, written by Solomon, to his Shulamite bride whom he loved dearly. The poem was most likely written during the early part of Solomon’s reign, and would place the dating of this book at around the year 965 B.C.[2] However, in light of Solomon’s exemplary writing skills, musical giftedness, and wisdom (I Kg. 4:32); this poem could have been written at any time during Solomon’s time as the king.[3] The Song of Solomon encourages and praises the virtues of love between a husband and wife. The book can be separated into three distinct sections that Dr. Thomas L. Constable explains thoroughly in work entitled, Notes on the Song of Solomon.[4]

The first section is the courtship (1:2 – 3:5). This section of Solomon’s poem gives the reader a much better understanding of Solomon’s humanity. He may have been the wisest man on Earth, but Solomon still felt and operated the same way that any male who has just met the girl of his dreams would. It also shows the reader Solomon’s bride’s desire to be pursued (1:2-4), her passion for purity (2:7), and she even gives the reader a glimpse of her insecurity (1:5-8).[5] This courtship section of Solomon’s poem presents a healthy model of a relationship in its beginning stage. The second chapter of The Song of Solomon is one of the greatest passages to study for a person who is committed to remaining pure. A very well known verse, spoken by the Shulamite bride, says, “I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or by the hinds of the field, that you do not arouse or awaken my love until she pleases” (NASB).[6] This passage explicitly expresses her commitment to a chaste life before and during marriage. The bride also invites accountability to the “daughters of Jerusalem” which reaffirms her fervor for purity. Later, in the same chapter, Solomon said, “Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that are ruining the vineyards, while our vineyards are in blossom”[7] (NASB). Conceivably, as she most likely did remove the foxes in the vineyard, Solomon wanted her to do the same, by way of analogy, in their relationship. In other words, Solomon was suggesting that they remove those things in their relationship that would spoil their emerging love before their marriage.

The second section that Dr. Constable explains in his work is called “The Wedding”5 (3:6 – 5:1). The second major section portrays the king (Solomon) actually coming for his bride and their return to Jerusalem (3:6-11).[8] This section also includes the wedding (4:1-7), and the couple’s consummation of their marriage (4:8-5:1). The procession described at the beginning of the second section is very grand. Solomon is said to have come on a “traveling couch surrounded by “sixty mighty men.”[9] It is suggested that the wedding takes place in verses 4:1-7. The reason these verses are believed to contain the wedding is because, until 3:11, there had been no hint of a wedding or marriage; so, the scenario of events maintains the idea that 1:2-3:5 refers to the premarital days of the relationship. The wedding and love life that followed is rehearsed in 4:1ff. There are several reasons that support this explanation: 1) Again, “wedding” is not mentioned before 3:11. 2) “Bride” does not show up before 4:8 and then is mentioned six times from 4:8-5:1. 3) Before 4:1, the beloved has a holy fixation with sexual purity/restraint (cf. 2:7; 3:5), but not afterwards within the bonds of holy matrimony.[10]

The third and final definable section of the Song of Solomon is the transition from marriage into what Dr. Constable calls “The Maturing Process.”[11] In this section, he explains how sometime after the wedding, a problem of apathy entered into the marriage. Solomon and his Shulamite wife experience their first argument (5:2-6:3), and learn to reconcile with each other (6:4-8:14). The cause of the argument was the Shulamite’s “failure to respond in an encouraging manor to Solomon’s demonstration of affection,” says Dr. Constable.11 Constable goes on to explain how her actions led Solomon to remove himself from her, and how she eventually noticed that a wall of separation had come between them; hindering their intimacy. When the bride realized her error, she told her friends to tell her husband, if they saw him, that she wanted him to come back to her because she missed his love for her.[12] The first steps back towards the reconciliation between Solomon and his bride take place in the latter portion of chapter five (5:9-16). In these verses, the Shulamite bride speaks of her admiration for her husband, and by the beginning of chapter six, the daughters of Jerusalem are prepared to go looking for Solomon with her (6:1-3). Once found, Solomon’s first words to his wife were words of praise (6:4-13), and intimacy was restored once more in their relationship. After their first argument and reconciliation, Solomon and his beloved begin to learn how to communicate with each other on both a physical and emotional level by using compliments. An example: “The soft glance of her eyes reflects the peace and beauty of the Heshbon pools” (7:4). It is obvious that their love for each other matured over time. The unity and devotion they experienced as they continued together is a wonderful model of the covenant style marriage God designed for His children. During this time in his life, Solomon was a faithful and committed husband with one wife whom he loved and pursued daily. At least for a time, his focus was centered on God and his marriage was a reflection of his love for his Lord.

The Song of Solomon is truly one of the most intriguing love poems ever written. It depicts a relationship that is as passionate as it is cautious, and honors God throughout its entirety (as far as the reader knows). The way that Solomon pursues his bride, all joking aside, is in many ways allegorical for the way God wants His children to pursue Him. The covenant of marriage is very similar (if not identical) to the covenant that Christians have with God. The love, passion, pursuit, and submission that is involved in a marriage should also be the model for how a believer approaches his/her relationship with God. The Song of Solomon is the Biblical model of what a healthy relationship should look like, whether it is our relationship with a future/current spouse, or with God.

Works Cited

Constable, Dr. THomas L. Notes on Song of Solomon. Rep. 2010 ed. Web. .

Macarthur Study Bible. Nelson Bibles, 2007. Print.

Foot Notes

[1]Song of Solomon 1:1; NASB

[2] John Macarthur (P. 923, Macarthur Study Bible)

[3] I Kings 4:32; NASB

[4] Dr. Thomas L. Constable, 2010

[5] Dr. Thomas L. Constable; Notes on Song of Solomon, p. 7

[6] The Song of Solomon 2:7; NASB

[7] Song of Solomon 2:15; NASB

[8] Macarthur Commentary, p. 928;

[9] The Song of Solomon 3:7; NASB

[10] Macarthur p. 928

[11] Dr. Thomas L. Constable, p. 22

[12] The Song of Solomon 5:8; NASB

-Matthew Roop

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

A Blast From the Past & Relationships...

I read a post from my old blog today that I posted during a very dark time in my life. In the post, I wrote about the idea of me getting married and what I thought God was telling me about my future espousal endeavors. Ha! Oh boy, was I wrong!

As I read through the lines of angst and bitter misinterpretation I had written, I realized that God was trying to speak to me back then. However, my mind was so focused on what I wanted to hear that I was incapable of understanding the things He was telling me that I needed to hear. You see, I had this preconceived notion that I was a great catch and that I deserved to have a wife whenever I felt that I was ready. Unfortunately, there are a couple flaws with that mindset.

The first flaw with that mindset was the fact that I was not a great catch. . .not even a good one. I was very self-centered, mildly arrogant (but really only because I was very self-conscious), and I had my priorities all out-of-order.

Another flaw I found that coincides with the mindset I had is the reality that I do not truly deserve anything. Not to mention the fact that women are not things to be had, but instead, they are treasures to be sought after. Women deserve to be cherished and served, not disrespected and used. I was WAY off base. The truth is, I am a depraved sinner who deserves nothing but death, and only by the grace of God am I capable of doing anything.

The last flaw that I will mention is that I do not determine when I am ready for anything. God is in complete control and knows the plans that He has for me. Even if I am ready to be married, God may still be preparing the heart of the woman whom I am to love. . .Thus, I must remain patient.

All that to say this: My take on relationships is simple; wait on the Lord and pursue a woman who loves Him far more than she could ever love me. I do not like the concept of dating. I feel like it just puts too much pressure on a friendship/relationship, and ultimately, it sets couples up to fail. However, I do not necessarily think a strict form of courtship is the best route either because it can be far too impersonal.

There is a whole lot more I could say on this subject, but since I've been single for almost three years now, I'll leave it up to the experts to write the lengthy essays. Let me know what you think. I love feedback and I really enjoy reading/listening to other people's opinions.

-Matt

Monday, January 10, 2011

I don't often make New Year's Resolutions, but when I do...

I don't make New Years resolutions because I think they are just a way of setting myself up for failure. However, what I do, is I take intentional steps towards becoming a better person. Lately, I've taken a few steps backwards but I have not turned around. This year, and the years to come, will be spent on the Narrow Path (Mt. 7:13-14).

-Matt